When things aren’t working the way we like, some of us place too much emphasis on the negative thing we want to change. We give it power by complaining to our friends which only reinforces the negative thoughts and emotions associated with the event. However, this never works in our favor because we aren’t able to see what we want clearly. We are blinded by our negativity. Instead of complaining and speaking about the negative, turn it around and talk about what you want in a positive way. In other words, state what you want, not what you don’t. This gives your mind a clear intention to work towards. For example, rather than saying things like… “I don’t want to be depressed,” “I don’t want to be fat,” or “I don’t want to be poor,” say something like “I want to be happy,” “I want to feel healthy,” or “I want to be successful.” The latter statement differs from the former because it redirects the focus in the direction of where you want to go, not where you currently are, ultimately providing you with a clear intention of where you need to place your next steps toward improving your situation.